I had a very interesting conversation the other day where I was scolded for not properly caring for my man-child, I mean husband. Sorry, I get confused when I have to care for an adult like I do my children.
Just to clarify, no this conversation was not with Mr. Rant. He knows better. The conversation did, however, come up because of Mr. Rant’s laundry.
As you all know, he recently went to Switzerland and came home with a large amount of laundry. It is normal. By about the 4th load I was totally over doing it. Hell, I didn’t go to Switzerland! I didn’t ask him to wash my Carnaval costumes, which would’ve been a lot easier because they are a HELL of a lot smaller than snow clothes.
So I talked to him about it and he said he would wash the last load. Of course that was the day before our maid S came.
When she came I asked her to leave that load for him to wash. Why? Shits and giggles.
I wanted to see how long it was going to take until that pile of laundry was washed. Mr Rant is a product of Brazilian culture and I wanted to see when he would finally do some sort of housework on his own accord.
My maid was horrified and she totally confronted me.
“Rachel, you can not do that! You can not treat him like that! He will get angry! It is your job to take care of all these things!”
I have to say that I love my maid. She so rocks and I dig that she just tells me what she thinks. Of course I smiled, laughed and told her that Mr Rant wouldn’t be mad.
She didn’t agree. She said that she knows him and that he was raised a true Brazilian man. She reminded me that his family is from the Northeast of Brazil and that I need to remember Brazilian culture. I am at home and I need to serve my husband.
Of course she does have a point. I am at home. The home is my domain and I do actually enjoy taking care of it. I love caring for my family. I choose to be here.
That being said, I resent the expectation of service. This is not a hotel and I am not a servant.
In response, she told me that he pays for everything and so I have to make sure he is always happy. If I don’t he could leave me or find another woman on the side.
Well shit, if Mr Rant is going to leave me over a pile of laundry, it is best he just go ahead and do it now.
What do you think? Do Brazilian men expect to be taken care of to the point of not even doing a load of laundry?
By the way, the pile of laundry is on day 6.